Do you sometimes have the feeling that you are not achieving all that you could achieve? Does it seem like everyone else is more successful than you? You are not sure if you are on the right track and what is destroying your success?
Your head is destroying you! This is a sentence that everyone should remember, especially those who feel they are not reaching their full potential. Everything that happens around us and everything that happens in us is actually a perception of our head. The head (brain) is the basis of everything we do in life.
Unfortunately, many times we all find ourselves in a position where due to unclear thinking, we take the wrong path in life and business. But it’s a good thing that we can fix some thoughts in our head. Do you want to live better, here are 7 toxic thoughts you need to get rid of:
If you don’t believe in yourself, you can’t win
The matter is quite simple – you have to believe in yourself and your abilities. At this moment in the world, many people have less knowledge than you, and many people you could educate in a certain area. But if you don’t believe in yourself, you can’t beat others.
Lack of self-confidence is a big problem which torments many, especially members of the female population. Many women (and men) feel that they don’t have enough “something” to be better than others. However, they forget that others are also afraid of these things and that they are went through the same process on their way to success.
We are all afraid of something and we all don’t believe in ourselves enough. Why? Probably because we were raised from a young age that we can’t do this, we can’t do that, etc. They laughed at our ideas of being astronauts, doctors, singers, etc. But, each of us can do what we want – all you need is a firm belief in yourself. Defeat is not an option, giving up is not an option.
Staying in the comfort zone is a waste of your time
Staying in the comfort zone is comfortable and easy, but does it give you life satisfaction? It is easy to stay in the comfort zone because it requires minimal effort and exposure to the world around us. But, Is there enough fun for you in your comfort zone? Do you feel happy and safe enough in your comfort zone?
The comfort zone can only provide you with one security – the certainty that you will die without having achieved your great life goals. At the end of your life, you will regret that you spent your whole life in the comfort zone. Research shows that people at the end of their lives do not regret the activities they did, but rather the activities they did not do.
Every escape from the comfort zone it gives you strength, confidence and joy – which you will never feel if you stay in the comfort zone forever. Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone because most fears of change are in your head anyway. What’s the worst that can happen if you do something you fear? Mostly nothing terrible. Steve Jobs once said: We work naked and we will die naked – then what do we have to be ashamed of in life?
Live your life for others and spend your time
The worst thing is not knowing how to say NO. If you want to be happier, more focused and better in life – you simply have to learn to say no. If we look at the situation from a realistic perspective – we all have the same 24 hours a day at our disposal. So why are some people more successful than others, why are some people happier than others?
It is very important learn to manage your time. Plan your time. By planning, we open the door to many possibilities in life – either business or private. Five minutes of planning a day it can free up a few free hours during the day or push us to achieve long-term goals. All this for just 5 minutes of planning the day.
Don’t waste your time on things and events you don’t want. Don’t live life for others, but live life for yourself. Learn to prioritize activities in life and simply say NO to others when you feel you need to say no. Why would you spend time on something you don’t want to spend time on? don’t forget, you can’t turn back time – what you spent, you spent. And life is short, unfortunately.
Let others think whatever they want about you, it’s irrelevant anyway
Here in the Balkans you often have the feeling that everyone pokes their nose into the neighbor’s yard – where they don’t belong. But it’s not just about Balkan people, it’s about people in general. When we no longer have our own reasons for happiness, we look for other people’s reasons for unhappiness. Few will gossip about people because they are happymost will gossip about them if they are unhappy – because they want to elevate themselves.
The fact is that people can talk and say whatever they want about you, but does it even matter? Actually, it’s not. No matter how successful and happy you will be, people will always find something to degrade you for. Therefore, it is completely irrelevant what they think – it already is what matters is how you feel about yourself and your loved ones.
Don’t let the opinions of others stop you from achieving what you truly want in life. You only have one life at your disposal and you should make good use of it. Let them think whatever they want, while you feel fulfilled and happy – you are the winner.
Starting conditions are never ideal, but it’s better to start today than tomorrow
If you have an idea and a vision of your future life in your head – why wait until tomorrow, until Monday or until the new year? It does not make sense. The changes start today, changes begin with each new day. The first of the month or the first of the year is anyway just some made-up number on the calendar that someone made up a long time ago.
You can read a thousand books, go through a hundred educations and programs – but so long as you don’t go you won’t know what awaits you on the way. The first step is the most important step in the process because after the first step everything starts. The ideal time to start is never because ideal conditions will never exist. However, those who are successful did not wait for ideal conditions anyway.
Steve Jobs for example, started Apple from a garage, Mark Zuckerberg started Facebook from a student room. Were these ideal conditions? Definitely not. Did those two visionaries change history forever – they definitely did. To succeed in anything in life, you just need to start – right now. Ideal conditions will never exist – remember that.
Raw desire destroys you so learn to control it
When we take away the knowledge that people have today – we become animal beings controlled by natural instincts. One of the greatest urges is the urge to mate, so at the same time this urge is one of the biggest problems in life. Men are often characterized as “guys who are always horny and crave sex”, and in fact this is not so far from the truth.
Do you want to become successful in life you must learn to control your emotions and urges. Controlling natural instincts is not easy, but it is necessary. Once someone started a discussion on our WMforum about how he stopped watching porn movies (and doing related activities) – and immediately became more focused and successful. Namely, the focus shifted from movies to business goals – while the natural drive was under control.
Although it sounds a bit strange – cruel desire destroys many aspects of your life. For example, the desire for sex destroys marriages (because of lovers), the desire for food destroys the beautiful appearance of the body, the desire for rest destroys productivity, etc. When we learn to control emotions and desires – we become more focused on what is really important to us in life. Therefore, ask yourself how well you manage your desires and emotions?
Don’t lose focus and patience because they are very important
Focus and patience are probably the two most important qualities of successful people. Unfortunately, in the modern world, we have less and less focus and patience. If we look at today’s people whose focus while scrolling through social networks is at the level of chickens – we rightly wonder where this world is going? But, such a development of the situation is actually in our favor – because with proper focus and patience, we can easily become better than those people who waste their lives scrolling through social networks.
Focus will help you stay on track when you row towards your own goals. On the other side, patience will allow you to continue to row no matter what, because you know that somewhere behind another 1000 strokes, the achievement of your desired goal is waiting for you. People who have focus and patience – he will not give up, but will reach the realization of great goals.
Do you want to be among people who are proud of their projects, who are successful, joyful and live their dream life – just continue to be focused and patient. Use your time wisely and don’t let others influence your goals. It is possible to achieve anything when you put your mind in order because – your head is destroying you. When you get things in order in your head, your life, which you have always dreamed of, will also get things in order. Good luck!